When I first started studying Chinese Medicine, I hated the thought of using needles.
“I will use only acupressure” was my constant thought.
The 2nd year came rather quickly after the 1st year (it’s only natural I guess), and I quickly understood that there’s no way I will not use acupuncture.
Two things helped me to understand this:
1. The power of the most delicate touch on the right point at the right time.
2. The acupuncture sessions I started to take with a healer, who quickly became my mentor.
So my fear- if you can call it a fear- of needles vanished and never returned.
It didn’t return when I started to have friends as patients. It didn’t return even when family members were forced to become needle-cushions on my 3rd year (”dad, it’s for a good cause!”).
And it didn’t return when I finished my 4 years and had my clinic growing steadily.
Recently I told you about my son being ill.
One of my biggest frustrations is that when it comes to my husband, my ability to diagnose is blurry, but I manage. When it comes to my son- I am completely clueless and have no re-collection what so ever about Chinese Medicine and it’s ability to help people.
Strange isn’t it?
When it comes to my son, my fear of needles is back.
It’s not really fear, but I am not as happy for the task as I am with people around me.
While my son was sick, I was very frustrated with the fact that I can’t help him more and that I don’t know enough to do something. I needed to ask his doctor, his practitioner, and to be honest- I don’t want to relay on them. I want to know. I want to relay on me.
My son has a light asthma.
Every 3 months or so he has a runny nose, followed by a day of slight coughing.
Ventolin helps, and he goes about as if nothing changed.
He does have shortness of breath, which sometimes makes us use a steroid called Betnesol.
One time I saw his practitioner use the point Ding Chuan.
I felt quite silly for not thinking about it myself. What is up with that??
This point worked like magic.
On his last asthma attack, I decided to needle Ding Chuan.
The amazing thing was, that thinking about it made me nervous. Actually taking the needle and finding the point- I didn’t feel nervous. In fact, it felt like the right thing to do.
Did I hit the right point? I have no idea. But it did help for a while.
As in everything- practice makes perfect.
So what’s the result of all this?
I have decided to act, and I will be starting a course about Chinese Medicine in children this November.
I am not interested in treating children. I am interested in being able to help my son with various techniques- acupuncture, massage, Bach remedies, essential oils…
Maybe it’s just tools that help the mother- in this case- feel less frustrated and more in control.
But what if these things can actually help my boy?
I’m all for it.
Over to you
Do you use acupuncture on children around you? On family members? What’s that like?
Leave your comments, I would love to read them.
Ross Rosen
July 28th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Hi Yael,
When I was a beginning practitioner one of my teachers gave me the advice of “don’t treat family.” He was also a medical doctor and this is very common in the western medical field. Of course, I didn’t listen. At times I wish I did
But treating family is very difficult in our medicine as we delve very deep into our patient’s lives, their emotions, lifestyle, etc. This can get tricky with family. But, at the same time, I find it an obligation. We spend so much time training and practicing so that we can help people. And the people closest to us are our family. But objectivity, pressure to get results, etc can cloud us.
I treat lots of family members and friends, my wife and my son and daughters included. And, yes, it gets very challenging. But what I have found over the years doing it is to simply trust what I am doing. Your intention to heal your family is incredibly strong and that in and of itself has powerful repercussions. It would be difficult for another practitioner to duplicate that. Of course, keep training, studying, preparing, etc. Their is no end to the medicine and unfortunately there is no end to the family members needing your help. Such is our lot in these bodies.
Good luck.
Ross
Eric Grey
July 29th, 2008 at 9:21 am
I treat my family with regularity and no hesitation. One of the reasons I went into the medical field is so that I could provide free medical care to the people I love. I have a (perhaps unique) ability to regard the situation fairly dispassionately and treat with no problems. I especially enjoy needling my daughter and giving her herbs - she reacts well and gives me wonderful feedback. She takes great pride in telling folks that she loves acupuncture.
That being said, I don’t talk to my most immediate family about psychological stuff or relationship issues. Both my partner and daughter see someone else just so they can be sure they’re getting all of their needs met. I am sure that the needling and herb prescribing I do helps on those fronts, but it is not overt.
Eric
Yael
July 30th, 2008 at 11:15 am
Hey,
Thank you both for your comments.
I think I”m a bit of both- very eager to help those I love, but when it comes to talking about emotions and so on, I think it’s better to let them see someone else.
I think it’s only healthy.
Thank you for sharing,
Yael
amy
July 31st, 2008 at 9:00 am
Hi Yael-
I have the same frustrations as you when I treat my partner, and I’ve found that simply looking at him as if he were a patient in the clinic seems to help. Stepping back and seeing him in a different light for a few minutes instead of a partner seems to help a lot, and brings clarity to what my intention is.
I don’t have children at this point, so I can’t answer to that! But I’ve given herbs to my nieces on many occasions with some success. Ding Chuan Wan in smaller doses for my 6-year-old niece with asthma has worked well.
I wish you and your family a healthy summer!
-amy
Yael
August 1st, 2008 at 3:02 am
Hey Amy, good to hear from you!
Indeed, the feelings I have while treating my husband are different than the feelings I have while treating my son, but I still have trouble taking that step back, as you wisely put it, and look at him just like any other patient.
But I still do it, as I see that the results are good. When I see that I actually help them, it’s worth the frustration.
Thanks for your comment, and yes- I too hope that the rest of the summer will be healthy,
Yael
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